[This letter has been stripped of its personal identifiers and shared in hopes that it might be of benefit to someone else.] To my young black friend, I know we’ve had a lot of good conversations over the years, but there are some things I wanted to write down for

“Train up a children in the way they should go;even when they are old they will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6 This advice is older than psychology – much older.  And time has only proven it to be more true. We know today that human development is heavily

There are just three of you at the moment – seven, five, and a little brother due around Christmas.  Maybe there will be a four of you one day.  I hope so and I’m writing this already thinking of you. Some people will say that it is morbid to write

Many people these days are pretty negative about marriage.  For many, the concept of two people saving themselves for each other and then making a lifetime commitment to love and be faithful to each other for the rest of their lives (once referred to as the virtue and spiritual practice

[This is a two-part series. Check out the first part HERE.] How do you teach children compassion while protecting them from harm? Suffering often enhances our ability to have sympathy and compassion for others. I want those qualities for my children. I want them to be sympathetic people, but I

“You can be anything you want to be!” You actually can’t be anything you want to be. At 5’1″ 117 pound Laffit Pincay, Jr. would never make it in pro basketball. Shaquille O’Neal could never make it as a professional jockey. Bill Gates will likely never be a dynamic pubic

If being judgmental is a human condition then, according to Christianity, Jesus is the antidote. When we are judgmental we are evaluating others against our own values, ideals, words, and actions and finding them wanting by comparison. Whether our analysis is accurate or not it makes us feel better about

I used to think that being judgmental was the sole territory of narrow-minded, self-righteous, religious people. You know the ones I’m talking about. The people that you feel like you can’t be yourself around or be honest with for fear of getting that condescending look or that biting comment. When